Hello CHRISTIAN Men – WORDS Matters: Keep Speaking GRACIOUS WORDS To Your Wife And Other Women Out THERE In Your Life!
“You are SNARED by THE WORDS OF YOUR MOUTH; you are TAKEN by THE WORDS OF YOUR MOUTH” Proverbs 6:2/NKJV.
“HOLD FAST the FORM of SOUND WORDS, which thou hast heard of me, in FAITH and LOVE which is in Christ Jesus. 14 That GOOD THING which was committedunto thee KEEP by the Holy Ghost which DWELLETH in us” 2 Timothy 1:13-14.
Are you a godly, Spirit-filled and hearted man?
And if YES, are you speaking gracious WORDS towards others, especially towards your wife and the women around you?
Or are you a mean, childish, loose-mouthed boy-man who speaks OUTRAGEOUS and DEPRAVED words to your wife and to other women in your life sphere?
Have you ever considered that as a man, WORDS MATTER, and that any OUTRAGEOUS, DEMEANING and DEROGATORY words are very much unnecessary, no matter the level of provocation THE woman may have caused?
Do you know or realise that you are the CUSTODIAN of what you say — be it good or evil, especially as a Christian man?
Do you know for sure that it is out of the NURSERY and NURSED WORDS in your heart that your mouth speaks — be it good or evil?
And God hears. He is listening and noting it, to define whether you are of His image in grace or of another.
“For every TREE is KNOWN by his own FRUIT. For of thorns men do not gather figs, nor of a bramble bush gather they grapes. 45 A GOOD MAN OUT OF THE GOOD TREASURE OF HIS HEART BRINGETH FORTH THAT WHICH IS GOOD; and an EVIL man out of the EVIL treasure of his HEART bringeth FORTH that which is EVIL: FOR OF THE ABUNDANCE OF THE HEART HIS MOUTH SPEAKETH” Luke 6:44-45.
“Let no CORRUPT communication PROCEED out of your MOUTH, but that which is GOOD to the use of EDIFYING, that it may MINISTER GRACE unto the HEARERS” Ephesians 4:29/Amplified.
As I picture Jesus Christ this morning, the author and finisher of our FAITH in God, I recall over and over again in SCRIPTURAL CONTEXT how He spoke and answered in many matters that would have made Him have an outburst. [Hebrews 12:2; Hebrews 1:1-4]
The graciousness and gracefulness of His choice of words calmed matters and sent the ENEMY and COHORTS to flight for the good of OTHERS around Him.
Even at the very temperamental point of testing in His life, He was gracious to the end.
“And ALL BARE HIM (JESUS CHRIST) WITNESS, and wondered at the GRACIOUS WORDS which PROCEEDED out of his MOUTH. And THEY SAID, is not THIS Joseph’s son?” Luke 4:22/Emphasis Mine.
“Hereafter I WILL NOT TALK MUCH WITH YOU: for the PRINCE of this world cometh, and HATH NOTHING in me” John 14:30.
“The Pharisees also with the Sadducees came, and TEMPTING desired him that He would shew them a sign from heaven . . .” Matthew 16:1-4 / [Mathew 19:3; Matthew 22:35; Mark 8:11; Mark 10:2; Luke 11:16; John 8:6].
And as one privileged under God to Pastor and Shepherd in His grace and BLESSEDNESS, when I hear from women how some of the men in their lives speak to them, you wonder what harm is being done over time.
This I hear and notice, especially towards wives and the women around them — and the constant speaking to these women [especially wives, daughters etc] in a demeaning and derogatory way is becoming appalling in every way on each and every given day.
Just because you cannot see eye to eye on some COMMON issues does not mean you cannot be civil and maintain a sense of civility in God’s graciousness and gracefulness in the grace.
And except there is an element of scriptural ignorance, which makes me wonder if we sincerely do know and understand, when the Scripture says we share the same common enabling grace to do life on earth and live godly towards God the Father in Christ Jesus’ stead.
I just want to let you know now, dearly beloved brother in Christ Jesus, that WORDS MATTER; hence, every man especially should seek WISDOM on how and when to speak, especially when addressing your wife or other women around you, irrespective of what is at stake at such a time of indifference.
“WALK in WISDOM toward them that are without, redeeming the time. 6 Let your SPEECH be alway with GRACE, SEASONED with salt, that ye may KNOW how ye OUGHT to ANSWER every man” Colossians 4:5-6.
” . . . 7 Likewise, ye husbands, DWELL with them ACCORDING to KNOWLEDGE, giving HONOUR unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as BEING HEIRS TOGETHER OF THE GRACE OF LIFE; THAT YOUR PRAYERS BE NOT HINDERED. 8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: 9 not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: BUT CONTRARIWISE BLESSING; KNOWING THAT YE ARE THEREUNTO CALLED, THAT YE SHOULD INHERIT A BLESSING. 10 For he that will LOVE life, and SEE GOOD days, let him REFRAIN HIS TONGUE FROM EVIL, and HIS LIPS that they SPEAK NO GUILE: 11 let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. 12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is AGAINST them that do evil” 1 Peter 3:1-12.
More so, it is a great act of wisdom to know and understand, especially when having differences, to always separate the ISSUES under discussion from the Person.
THE ISSUES IN DISCUSSION AND THE PERSON ARE NOT THE SAME.
So when you have conflict over ISSUES, do not MAKE it into a Person’s or PERSONAL attack, name calling and such like — simply because the common issue under discussion has not been resolved to anyone’s satisfactory desire.
It is my earnest passion that you may ALWAYS remember this concept explained in context below from today FORWARD, as we move towards an ONWARD and UPWARD trajectory for the good and health of our relationship:
“IT’S SMALL, MEAN SPIRITED AND HEARTED MINDS THAT TALK ABOUT PERSONS; WHILE BIG, GOOD SPIRITED AND HEARTED WISE MINDS TALK ABOUT THE ISSUES IN CONTEXT AND NOT ABOUT THE PERSON” – Chukie MORSI Snr.
It is not in my place to be specific, but if you think you are a GODLY man that eschews EVIL WORDS from your MOUTH and not a CHILDISH boy-man that is acting out; then can you be mindful of how you speak to your wife and the God-given women in your life, both in private and public settings? For WORDS matter in God’s kingdom affairs for the godly in Christ Jesus’ stead. Amen.
Therefore, I plead with you today to SPEAK wellness and WHOLENESS in order to LIVE well and whole.
You can live healthily and whole by your WORDS for your own self good and goodness, and for all around you too — be they male and female — and more especially, to your wife and women within your reach.
Have an awesome and blessed day with GRACIOUS WORDS as the Lord Jesus Christ in His stead, in LIFE and GODLY LIVING. Amen.
SELAH – PAUSE AND THINK
SCRIPTURAL THOUGHTS WORTH PONDERING IN CONTEXT:
“And ALL BARE HIM (JESUS CHRIST) WITNESS, and wondered at the GRACIOUS WORDS which PROCEEDED out of his MOUTH. And they said, Is not THIS Joseph’s son?” Luke 4:22/Emphasis Mine.
“For even HEREUNTO were ye CALLED: because Christ also suffered for us, LEAVING us an EXAMPLE, that ye should FOLLOW his steps: 22 who did no sin, neither was GUILE FOUND IN HIS MOUTH: 23 who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously” 1 Peter 2:21-23.
“For every TREE is KNOWN by his own FRUIT. For of thorns men do not gather figs, nor of a bramble bush gather they grapes. 45 A GOOD MAN OUT OF THE GOOD TREASURE OF HIS HEART BRINGETH FORTH THAT WHICH IS GOOD; and an EVIL man out of the EVIL treasure of his HEART bringeth FORTH that which is EVIL: FOR OF THE ABUNDANCE OF THE HEART HIS MOUTH SPEAKETH” Luke 6:44-45.
“A man’s BELLY shall be SATISFIED with the FRUIT of his MOUTH; and with the INCREASE of his LIPS shall he be FILLED. 21 DEATH and LIFE are in the POWER of the TONGUE: and they that LOVE it shall EAT the FRUIT thereof. 22 Whoso FINDETH a wife FINDETH a good thing, and OBTAINETH favour of the Lord” Proverbs 18:20-22.
” . . . 7 Likewise, ye husbands, DWELL with them ACCORDING to KNOWLEDGE, giving HONOUR unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as BEING HEIRS TOGETHER OF THE GRACE OF LIFE; THAT YOUR PRAYERS BE NOT HINDERED. 8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: 9 not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: BUT CONTRARIWISE BLESSING; KNOWING THAT YE ARE THEREUNTO CALLED, THAT YE SHOULD INHERIT A BLESSING. 10 For he that will LOVE life, and SEE GOOD days, let him REFRAIN HIS TONGUE FROM EVIL, and HIS LIPS that they SPEAK NO GUILE: 11 let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. 12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is AGAINST them that do evil” 1 Peter 3:1-12.
“And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a GODLY seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal TREACHEROUSLY against the WIFE of his youth” Malachi 2:15.
“And the TONGUE is a fire, a WORLD of iniquity: so is the TONGUE among our members, that it DEFILETH the whole body, and SETTETH on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. 7 For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: 8 but the TONGUE can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 9 Therewith BLESS we God, even the Father; and therewith CURSE we men, which are made after the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same MOUTH proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be” James 3:6-10.
SUMMARY
The message is a pastoral exhortation to Christian men to guard their speech, especially towards their wives and the women in their lives, by speaking gracious, God-honouring words instead of outrageous, demeaning and derogatory words.
Key Points:
- WORDS HAVE POWER AND CONSEQUENCES
You are “SNARED” and “TAKEN” by the words of your mouth Proverbs 6:2. The tongue holds “DEATH and LIFE” Proverbs 18:21. God hears and notes every word to judge whether we reflect His image Luke 6:44-45. - CHRIST IS OUR EXAMPLE OF GRACIOUS SPEECH
Even under testing, Jesus spoke gracious words that calmed matters and sent the enemy to flight Luke 4:22; Hebrews 12:2. He did not revile when reviled 1 Peter 2:22-23. We are called to “HOLD FAST the FORM of SOUND WORDS” 2 Timothy 1:13-14. - A GODLY MAN IS A CUSTODIAN OF HIS WORDS
The issue is not just behaviour, but the heart. Out of the “NURSERY and NURSED WORDS” in your heart your mouth speaks. A good man brings forth good from the good treasure of his heart Luke 6:45. “Let no CORRUPT communication PROCEED out of your MOUTH” Ephesians 4:29. - SPECIAL RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS WIVES AND WOMEN
There is growing concern about men speaking to wives, daughters and other women in demeaning and derogatory ways. Husbands are to “DWELL with them ACCORDING to KNOWLEDGE, giving HONOUR unto the wife” 1 Peter 3:7, so that your prayers are not hindered. To deal treacherously against the wife of your youth dishonours God Malachi 2:15. - SEPARATE ISSUES FROM THE PERSON
Wisdom is to separate “THE ISSUES IN DISCUSSION AND THE PERSON”. Conflict over issues must not become personal attacks, name calling, or railing. “IT’S SMALL, MEAN SPIRITED AND HEARTED MINDS THAT TALK ABOUT PERSONS; WHILE BIG, GOOD SPIRITED AND HEARTED WISE MINDS TALK ABOUT THE ISSUES IN CONTEXT AND NOT ABOUT THE PERSON” — Chukie MORSI Snr. - THE CALL TO WISDOM, GRACE AND BLESSING
“Let your SPEECH be alway with GRACE, SEASONED with salt” Colossians 4:6. “not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: BUT CONTRARIWISE BLESSING” 1 Peter 3:9. The tongue can bless God and curse men, but “these things ought not so to be” James 3:9-10.
Call to Action:
- EXAMINE YOURSELF: Are you a godly, Spirit-filled man? Check if your speech to your wife and other women is gracious or OUTRAGEOUS, DEMEANING and DEROGATORY.
- SEEK WISDOM: Be intentional about HOW and WHEN you speak, especially in times of indifference or disagreement.
- SPEAK WELL TO LIVE WELL: Choose to “SPEAK wellness and WHOLENESS” so you can “LIVE well and whole”. Use your words for your own good, for those around you, and more especially for your wife and the women within your reach.
- FOLLOW CHRIST’S EXAMPLE: Emulate Jesus in graciousness and gracefulness in speech, even under provocation, so that you walk in LIFE and GODLY LIVING.
REV. CHUKIE MORSI
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